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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm so sorry to hear your story.

I would both have your DH talk to his parents and call your brother.  DH knows better than you whether his parents would help in this situation, so let him navigate that.

[b]With your brother, I wouldn't necessarily bring up moving in, but rather just let him know where you are.  If he's doing well, maybe he's got a lead on a job for your DH.  Or maybe he would be willing to offer financial support (I'd probably let him bring it up, but you know your family best).  Regardless, having someone you love know what you're going through can bring intangible benefits.  Maybe he can help in small ways like going with you to the hospital occasionally or taking your other child to play with cousins for a night.  Maybe even just a meal with family once in a while.[/b]

No one's going to offer to help if you don't ask...they may not even know what you're going through (at least not the full extent).  HOnestly, this doesn't sound like a situation you can navigate without more help of some sort...I've helped out not at all close friends in much less dire straights than yours.[/quote]

This.  While my sister is isn't in the same dire situation, we had a huge argument because she has the thing where she ask/demands help and gets pissed if you don't provide it.  I dislike being put on the spot and put in the position where I am the bad guy if I don't comply with her request. I basically had to say while I am willing to help, she can't dictate to me what form that help takes.  Like the pp mentioned, maybe your brother can help with finding a job for DH, giving you guys a break and taking the kids overnight, making a meal etc.

I also agree with pp that you need to have a plan if your DH asks to move in with his parents.  When my siblings would ask to "borrow" money.  They never had a concrete plan to pay it back. If no one is working and you don't have government assistance of some sort how would you afford to move out and rent an apartment again?  [/quote]

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