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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Messes are one of the primary things my H and I fight about.  He likes things really neat.  (I, on the other hand, like things really clean -- there's a difference. Like, he'll put away a dirty pot to avoid looking at it on the counter.  Yuck.)  I'd love to stop fighting about it.  We already have cleaners that come 2x a month, but they don't put anything away or anything -- so it actually causes more stress because we all have to clean for the cleaners to come.
For those that keep recommending a daily housekeeper, how does that work?  is there really someone that will come and just spend 1/2 hour or an hour a day putting everything away where it belongs and doing general clean-up?  I would do that, but I always figured it isn't worth it unless you live in a mansion that takes hours and hours to clean. 
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How does it take you 30 minutes to tidy things up? Barring chores like loading/unloading the dishwasher, laundry, and mopping/vacuuming, you should not be spending 30 minutes putting things away every day. I have little kids and tidying up everything, including toys, paints, dress-up costumes, etc, takes MAYBE 5-10 minutes maximum, and I'm not a naturally tidy person (ugh, DH is). I'm baffled, not trying to be snarky. Do you just have a lot of stuff?[/quote]

Not PP, but I think tidying up can take a long time if you let things pile up for too long, hence, I don't think this is going to go well for OP.  I try to tidy up a little bit everyday.  I still have little piles here and there, but they are not so big that I can't put it in a nice looking bin - kind of like a junk bin.

I don't make my kids clean up their toys everyday down in the basement.  It's their playroom.  I don't see it everyday as I don't go down there everyday.  But, when I do make them clean up so that I can vacuum, it can take them 20minutes to clean up if there are little toys, papers and stuff from arts/crafts  *everywhere*.   When it takes them this long, the room is pretty trashed. So, if it takes someone 30minutes to tidy up, I'm assuming it's because there are piles of stuff everywhere, in every room.[/quote]

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