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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Awesome OP, sounds like you need some rest like your DH and most of the rest of us, except the type A "scrubby people."

Sounds like it is time to get a cleaner to come in every so often, if you can afford it. [/quote]

So, if you are Type B you are ok living in a filthy house?  What is your definition of filthy vs non "type A scrubby people"?   I draw the line at seeing pee somewhere on the toilet; crusted toothpaste spit in the sink (mostly by kids); lots of dust; crumbs all over the floor (attracts ants/mice).[/quote]

I don't live in a "filthy" house and I don't clean all the time either. Depends on your definition of "filthy" and "clean." DH and I split it up--and he is willing to do the work. I also think it is ok to hire things out. We vacuum once a week, dust once a month, and wipe down the bathrooms once a week. Do a basic kitchen clean once a week or wipe up spills and crumbs when we make them. We don't have lots of dust, or pee everywhere, or toothpaste spit hardening. The kitchen is basically clean. But, not eat off the floor clean. It was great when we could afford to have help, but can not afford it now that we are living in the DC area.

But--I am related to people (the people I refer to as Type A "scrubby people") who can not stand one speck of dust or crumb or hang out in their house more than a hour or so. During a kids party my SIL started freaking about the crumbs and started vacuuming in the middle of the party. I literally watched her freak out (and went to help so she could supervise the party instead!) Another woman I know--I can literally eat off her kitchen floor because she mops it every single day, and vacuums every single day. I can see nothing in her house that needs cleaning, but she insists it is filthy. My DH calls her "scrubby woman" in jest, which is where I picked up the term. Know several people like this and I hate going to their houses; yes, they look nice, but the sheer effort they put into cleaning non-stop is hard for me to be around, relax, and have fun.

If OP and her DH were fighting all the time about cleaning that does not sound like a fun life. Relaxing once in a while will help OP and not kill her. Her DH already does that, right?
And, maybe she and her DH can relax and find another way to keep things clean enough for both of them without fighting. [/quote]

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