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[quote=Anonymous]My situation is a little similar to yours - I adopted boys from foster care when they were little kids and there are no men in their lives.  They are now in high school.  Over the years, I've had to figure out everything - shaving, sex, hygiene issues, privacy, dating, no sex with minors, driving (ok, not so hard except there is nothing like giving your baby your car keys) etc.  At first it was really hard.  I watched youtube videos on shaving and read lots of things.  And, then I just plowed in, well slow at first.  Now that my boys are older, I can say that I am really glad I am the one who helped them grow up.  I think my being the one to help them grow up made us very close.

I can also sympathize with your fear of her not wanting to do things with you.  It happens and there are points where it seems that it's an overnight change.  They start to need more alone time instead of asking you to watch TV or play a game with them.  Then they choose going out with a friend over an activity you offer.  But, even with that, my boys and I have our special things.  We never stopped baking together.  We have stupid rituals for every holiday, even the Hallmark ones.  We read together in my bedroom most nights before bed.  You just have to keep offering and let it be ok when she says no.

If you can find it in yourself, I think you should be the one to take her shopping.  She asked you.  It's you she wants and she trusts that you will be the one.  And, I'd let her pick the place if she has something in mind.  Once she does, you can guide her to what's age appropriate.  [/quote]

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