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[quote=Anonymous]This is what I would do.  I would have a very specific strategy in place with DH re. moving back out, getting back on our feet, getting out of debt, as detailed as possible.  Then I would be OK with DH *asking* them (including explaining why and explaining the gist of the exit strategy and any other considerations).  Don't bring any baggage to this conversation.  No guilt, no hurt b/c they didn't visit you or DD.  Etc.  Then I would listen very carefully to their response.  If they were very open to the idea, I would do it (for a certain length of time sticking to my original plan with my DH) and be VERY thankful and appreciative and suck up my bad feelings for them prior.  If they exhibited hesitation, passive aggressive attitude, or other responses that made me question it, I would not stay there for help.

I had to ask my dad for help one time.  None of my siblings or I have have a great relationship with him, and we are not really close, but he was the right person who was in the position to help us.  So I did ask him, very neutrally.  I explained what else we were trying to do but why that was taknig a while to work out for us.  He stepped us and provided the exact help I asked for with no drama and never mentioned it again.  I couldn't have asked for anything more from him and I am so grateful and glad I did ask, even though I was hesitant.  if he had said no, I would have been even worse off with respect to my situation, obviously, but no hard feelings towards him.[/quote]

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