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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks for your response. Interesting to read because I am very uncomfortable letting my oldest go over. The neighbors are strangers to me.[b] To be honest, I don't trust mil's judgment[/b]. She is a bit lax and semi naive sometimes and I lean the other way. Not saying I'm right, just much more cautious generally. I just don't understand why mil can't have the kids play outside only and keep an eye on them? [/quote]

That's the issue. Not whether the kids go inside the house or stay in the yard. The issue is that you don't trust the judgment of the person who is watching your children. I think that you should focus on that.[/quote]

Op here. Yes, I admit I don't trust her judgment on certain issues. I do trust that she will keep the kids safe when at her home. Outside of the home? Not so much. She's proven to be easily distracted and a bit absent minded. When the kids were babies we didn't let her babysit much. having said all that, we are from California and don't have any other family in the area. We can't be too picky; hence my dilemma.[/quote]

OP, your mother-in-law is your partner's mother. Does your partner trust her? How does your partner feel about your mother-in-law watching the children?

If you (or your partner) said to your mother-in-law: "Can you please keep the kids at your home and do not take them outside your home?" I can foresee a few possible outcomes.

1. Mother-in-law thinks, "Good lord, parents these days are nuts," but abides by your wishes (meanwhile your kids don't get to go outside or play with the neighbor kids).
2. Mother-in-law thinks, "Good lord, parents these days are nuts," and ignores your wishes.
3. Mother-in-law says, "You don't trust me, do you?"

How comfortable are you with these outcomes?[/quote]

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