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[quote=Anonymous]PP, this is OP. You're right that there's  perhaps an element of a double standard or hypocrisy in some of the comments in this thread, but there are some important and relevant and legit issues. First, I'd be the child's guardian if something happens to her. So I'm not just weighing in and being judgemental for the sake of it - this potentially affects me in a major way.

Second, if she was married, she probably wouldn't be asking me if she should have a second kid - she'd just decide with her spouse. And if she DID ask me, I'd want to tell her pretty much the same thing I want to tell her now - that I don't think it's a great idea. She wants her DD to have a sibling, I get that. But she also wants to provide her child with other opportunities we didn't have growing up, experiences that will be a lot harder to provide with 2 kids. It's like she's only seeing the advantages of creating a sibling without thinking through what she'd be giving up or leaving ANY cushion for some hard times. And if the kid has additional developmental needs, there's no extra parent who can stay home from work or conversely, take an extra shift - her job arrangement is stable but simply insufficient.

plus it seems like such a Hail Mary that it's almost like throwing out money (not quite...but almost). IUI at 40 is tough! [/quote]

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