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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does anyone have good experiences to share?

My parents (active, late 50's) sold their house and moved cross country to my neighborhood when we got pregnant. They're adamant that they want to care for our baby after my maternity leave ends and until the baby goes to preschool. I knew they wanted to be involved, but I was kind of blown away by this. Mom is retired, but spent her life around small children and dad teleworks full time.

We have an excellent relationship, but I just wonder how much control I lose over the baby? It also puts them on a very unequal ground with DH's parents (who both work and don't live nearby). Mom's first reaction when [b]we said we were pregnant[/b] was how excited she was that now we won't travel to my inlaws for Christmas every other year and we'll stay home and she can see us every Christmas. [/quote]

Anyone who says "we're pregnant" is a control freak.  You will have horrendous problems. [/quote]

I think you misread the post (unless you are calling OP a control freak).  Her mother did not say We're pregnant - the OP and her husband announced we're pregnant and the mother said she was excited that they wouldn't be travelling to the inlaws for Christmas every other year.

That being said, your mom sounds really excited, but a little one can be overwhelming and she may not take care of the baby the way you want - which could make for some difficult conversations.  Also, as the baby gets older and more mobile, the group setting of a daycare is nice.  Does your mom know anyone in the area?  Will the baby be her entire World?  I only ask because I know of other grandmothers that have made their grandchildren their entire world- and it can be kind of unhealthy.  I think a couple days of daycare and a couple days with mom might provide a decent balance - but tread carefully - from what I am reading, your mother may have or develop boundary issues. 
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