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[quote=Anonymous]Had a real self-esteem/inferiority complex. Really hung up about things that happened in high school (not getting girls) even though it was 10 years later. Had this need for reassurance all the time and would get really depressed if I rejected him in any way ("don't feel like sex tonight" became me not wanting to have sex with HIM). Most of all he took everything really personally - and any negative thing that happened (somebody not responding to his emails right away, not returning a phone call, someone at work got praise and he didn't) would be because that person had something against HIM. Not maybe because they were busy and have lives of their own.

It didn't seem like a big deal at the time - the instances where this popped up were just occasional so it didn't seem like a real problem.

Fast-forward 15 years and he's buying the sports cars and having affairs = the typical mid life crisis - the need for constant reassurance that he was attractive and worthy from me wasn't enough (was never enough, has never been enough) and any female that gave him the attention he just gravitated towards and did her bidding.

Years of couple therapy and we're separated now - and he's still the same way.

The little things become big things. If you see red flags now...[/quote]

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