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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 43. All of you getting together for drinks sounds fine to me.  I wouldn't think anything of it.  In this situation, I would just tell my SO, he's someone I dated back in the day.[/quote]

I'm substantially older and wiser (44) and there's zero chance that I would go out for drinks.

I see no upside--only downside with risks to current relationship.

Why potentially mess up a good current relationship to have a few drinks with an exFWB?  Makes no sense to me at all.[/quote]

What downside and risks? Maybe if you still have feelings for the other person - otherwise, it's just having drinks with someone you kind of know; what's the big deal?[/quote]

Or maybe they still have feelings for you?  Maybe this makes things uncomfortable.  Maybe they get into a pissing contest with current SO.  Maybe their SO is jealous of you.  Maybe your SO isn't comfortable with the situation and gets upset.

Point is that you're creating a situation where quite a bit can go wrong, including things that affect the current relationship.  Why do this to have a few drinks with someone who, while pleasant, has no emotional meaning to you and no bearing on your future life?  Huge risk, no reward.[/quote]

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