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[quote=Anonymous]As a PP said, some people just don't mesh well. There are lots of reasons for it - temperament, upbringing, you name it. Your ex has a vested interest in saying that neither of you should ever live with anyone else - it absolves him of all blame in the relationship/relationships going forward, by a) negating his ability to change so someone COULD live with him and b) putting it on you, as well, saying that no one COULD live with you.

I dated someone in my mid 20s for over a year who just made me anxious. He yelled, a lot. Wasn't abusive, at all - his whole family was like that. They just communicated at a louder volume than mine ever did. It was a long time after we broke up that someone made the offhand comment to me that it was no wonder I always seemed tense - I grew up in a household without much yelling. To me, if someone yells, it means something is wrong. It was like being on 'high-alert' all the time. Again, he wasn't abusive, or wrong, but neither was I. We just weren't compatible.

I don't think you should ignore or not examine your role in your relationship's failure, but it doesn't sound like you are doing that.

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