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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My longterm BF and I broke up recently.  Prior to cohabitation, we got along pretty well.  Everything fell apart when we moved in together 2 years ago.
It wasn't all him and it wasn't all me.  He has some serious anger issues and I am quite anxious.
He's a yeller and I cry often.  He's tough and I'm sensitive.  I'm very sensitive to the moods and energy of other people.  It affects me quite strongly.
I got so tired of putting up with his anger and lack of communication that I started fighting back.  That was the end.
He recently told me that neither of us are meant to live with other people.
This really upset me, as I want to have another relationship and don't appreciate having that doubt planted in my head.
I'm currently seeking therapy to deal with the fallout from my breakup.  I want to learn to be a healthier person.  While I plan to be single for a while, I wonder if it is possible to have a healthy relationship after leaving a bad one?
My ex has made me feel like I'm a monster who is incapable of having a happy, functional relationship.
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NewsFlash:  your BF is abusive.  He has serious anger issues.  He yells.  He tells you you are no good for anyone else.  I'm glad you're seeing a therapist.  It is possible to have subsequent relationships.  But, it is hard to find HEALTHY subsequent relationships.  You have to be willing to walk away from potential partners at the first signs of emotional abuse, control, manipulation, dishonesty, etc.  You should be exploring with a therapist why you stayed together with your ex for so long after the first sign of anger.  Mature adults may be angry or upset about something, but they have the capacity to control their feelings and express their concerns and needs without putting a partner down.  [/quote]

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