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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not fully, but I help my mother pay for food, energy when oil prices are high, upkeep on the house, etc. Not married, so no spouse involved. I do have siblings and they prefer to ignore the fact that our mother survives on minimal SS. 
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I do something very similar. My sibling lives closer to my mother and also provides financial and physical support. My mother is terrible at long term planning and is completely clueless regarding finances. It sounds terrible, but I get very resentful when she needs support after watching her squander resources over her lifetime, never have a long term plan and expect that she will be someone else's responsibility.  It makes me feel like a bad daughter to be so frustrated with her. [/quote]

I am the first pp and often feel much as you do. I think those feelings are behind much of my siblings choices as well. My mother is definitely in her situation in large part because she never planned or seemed to think about retirement. She assumed she'd be taken care of by a husband, and when my father left her, seemed incapable of planning for her own future. But at this point that is water under the bridge. She didn't make *bad* life choices -- she didn't throw away any money or waste it -- she just didn't do what I, and most responsible adults, do to try and ensure they can live in retirement. So, I try to look the other way about how she came to have so little and do what I can to help. When I start to feel guilty about not helping more I remind myself that she made choices that she needs to live with, as do we all.
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