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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] For those of you who limited contact, how did you manage it?  It seems for my mom like it's all or nothing - ie: you're with me or against me.    [/quote]

19:31 PP here. I just made it so that when she called, it didn't ring. She would call like 7 times in a row and wouldn't leave a message. I changed my vm message to: "if you'd like me to return your call, please leave a message." I would wait a few days and say, "My ringer is off, but I saw you called." She'd say, "I know, I called a million times and you never called back!" I would say, "well, it clearly wasn't important because you didn't leave a message." We did that dance for a few months before she realized I would literally not play her game. If I happen to be holding my phone when she calls, and it's been at least a week since we've talked, I'll pick it up. I end the conversation quickly. 90% of the time she will call right back when we are done talking, and I will not pick it up. I really, truly, will not talk to her more than once a week. I never had a conversation with her where I said, "Mom, I'm only comfortable having one short call a week," it's just a boundary I've set for myself. Although I did blow up at her once in my 20s and said something like, "I just don't like talking on the phone!" Which is true, but she still thinks of me as the 13-[/quote]

PP, sorry, as the 13-year-old who spent every afternoon monopolizing the landline.
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