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[quote=Anonymous]I have really learned a lot from this thread because I wondered if I was the only one who wanted to stay at a hotel instead of staying at my in-laws!

My DH enjoys having us travel to visit his mom and his sister, both of whom live in very small homes.  My DH was raised in a family of modest means, and so it was always unthinkable that you would stay in a hotel.  When DH was a child, his family either camped or stayed at other people's homes in various cities.  And they hosted lots of people who were passing through their city in California.

When DH and I were first getting acquainted (before getting married), and we were going to visit California, I suggested that we stay in a hotel since I hadn't yet met his family members and therefore didn't feel I should probably stay with them just yet.   This gave them the impression that I was "high maintenance."  But I genuinely am not high maintenance, and instead was simply doing what my family had always done -- which was to stay in a hotel rather than imposing on someone.  In my childhood, we took lots of vacations and always stayed in a hotel even if we knew family members in that town.

Now, with 3 kids, I really dislike staying in their small homes.  When our kids were younger, I was reluctantly OK with staying at their houses because it was nice to have a kitchen etc for the kids.

We stay in a hotel, and I find that I enjoy the trip a lot more.  (It's more of a "trip" than a "vacation.")

I am relieved to know I'm not the only one staying in a hotel.  It does seem to have damaged my relationship with my DH's family (who thinks I am some kind of princess for needing to stay in a hotel.)  But they just have a mindset that anyone who pays any amount for any convenience is frivolous and wasteful.[/quote]

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