Reply to Parent with personality disorder?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Parent with personality disorder?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks PP's who shared your own experience.  So much resonates with my own that sometimes it's strange to read it and realize it isn't just me who has gone through it.  I was especially interested in the link to the site about grooming grandkids because that's been a huge issue with my mom and one of my children.  She tries to take her off alone all the time and never wants all of us to be together as a family.  If DH and I come home while they're watching the kids, they'll get up and get their coats on to go.  I've mentioned to her before that I feel hurt by it because it seems like she doesn't want to be around us, but I know she also does it to my SIL as well.  Recently she got really angry with me and DH because of something my daughter supposedly said on the phone but I doubt that my daughter said anything at all and if she did I'm sure it was after some serious probing my mom because it's not something DD has ever said to us or seemed to care about at all before.  She sends a lot of presents to my older one and only asks about her and not her siblings.  I've told my parents I don't think it's healthy and I've stopped leaving her alone with any of my kids.  She's openly critical of our parenting in front of them too which hopefully they're too young to pick up on at this point but I'm sure it won't be long.  Reading through the article and the responses has helped me get some clarity that it's not necessarily good for my kids either to have a relationship with her.  I guess part of me was hoping that she could be a better grandmother than mother and I still think to some extent that's true but I see now that she's continuing unhealthy patterns with them and I need to protect them (and myself) more than I have been.  For those of you who limited contact, how did you manage it?  It seems for my mom like it's all or nothing - ie: you're with me or against me.    [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics