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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On the contrary, my ILs insist on wish lists, which is fine for kids but I feel really uncomfortable with making a list for myself.  It just feels grubbing and gross.[/quote]

Uhh how bout my mil sends her kids a wish list for herself. Doesn't request one from anyone, but makes sure to send her own each year to her kids who have mortgages, student loans, etc. She is retIred and extremely financially comfortable. That is grubbing and gross.[/quote]

Unless she's asking for pricey gifts, OP, isn't it just possible that your financially comfortable MIL sends these lists because she wants to ensure that her "kids who have mortgages, student loans, etc." don't spend too much on her? This might be, to her way of thinking, a method to ensure that her kids who have a lot of financial obligations aren't floundering as they try to decide what to get her and end up spending more than they should. I know that one reason my mom made gift suggestions for herself at times (never a list, though) was because she wanted to be sure we didn't go out and spend much on her.

You could give your MIL the benefit of the doubt and assume that maybe her lists are intended to help her more cash-strapped adult kids, not grub presents from them for her comfy retirement. Maybe lists are never polite, period, but it might be a sincere if misguided effort on her part to do the right thing, even if it backfires where you're concerned. [/quote]

PP here. Nope. She is grubby and the list is grubby. Last time I saw her, DH complimented her shoes. Her snappy response: "Your sister bought them for me. When's the last time you bought me anything?"[/quote]

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