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[quote=Anonymous]It's really hard to tell from your OP what is or is not happening.
I'll project and say your husband is doing the stereotypical guy thing and trying to help/support you by offering suggestions on how you can fix things at work.  He sees you as loving your career and wants you to keep that part of yourself that makes you happy. His reaction and support of you is to tell you to do xyz or tell you a story about he handled a similar situation on the job.

This is not what  you need, so you get annoyed with him. You have already thought about the steps you can take so it feels like he's just piling on.

He reads this as you being angry at him and pulls back figuring she'll be happier if I giver her space. Which again isn't want you want either.

Communication and love language breakdowns everywhere.

Have you flat out said to him " Babe, I don't want to talk right now. I just need you to hold me."? Or going up to him and hugging him and letting him know  how good and safe that makes you feel?

Some guys need that "permission" that they don't have to go into fix it mode, that it's ok for them just to be that physical presence.

It sounds corny, but even after years together we have to learn ways to connect with spouses.[/quote]

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