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[quote=Anonymous]Having been in a situation that is a bit similar, you need to either suck it up and deal with it or cut your ties with him and move on.

If you choose to suck it up, you will need to learn to stop thinking about being with him in a romantic way.  You will need to stop dwelling on it.  You will need to stop talking about how much it hurts you.  By staying friends with him, you are choosing to let yourself be hurt.  If you can switch the pain off and remove yourself from having feelings for him, I can see you continuing a friendship with him.  However, I would suggest not going to their wedding and not talking to him for a bit.

If you choose to cut ties, you may see doors open for you that you did not think were there.  By staying focused on your friend, you are closing yourself off to other potential suitors.   While you may say no, you really are.  When you have in your mind that this one person is the one for you, it will not work out with anybody else.  I know this from personal experience and from dealing with it with my friends as well.   If you cut ties with him, maybe you can see him from a more objective view.  You may see that he is not everything that you think he is.  You may see that maybe you two are not meant to be together.   You may see you could be happier if you free yourself from these mental chains.

Whatever you do, you need to figure out how to make yourself happy.  You cannot expect him to do it for you. You cannot expect anyone to do it for you.  You have to figure out why you are stuck on him.  It looks like it may be time for you to dive inside yourself.  I have friends and lovers who I went through  a lot with as well and we have since parted ways.  I am sure you love him and he probably loves you too.  But just because you love each other, does not mean you are meant to be together.

I wish you luck.  I know how you are feeling, but if you take the time to work on yourself, you may find that your personal growth trumps past love. [/quote]

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