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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although I really think OP is a troll, I'll play along.

I'm sure he actually does understand that she has feelings for him. But what is he supposed to do about that?  You don't dump your soon to be fiance and someone you are a good match with to propose to an ex out of pity =\[/quote]
I think she should not lead her on if he understands she has feelings for him. 
At the same time, being dumped after 5 years together is so humiliating, I don't know how OP can have positive feelings towards her ex.[/quote]

We weren't friends for a good year or 2 after we split up,  but we were both so young, and people change and grow up. I'm not the same person I was back then and neither is he. We've been through tough times together. He really is my best friend. Maybe it is weird, but I know him and I always felt like we would end up together. We just needed time, and I'm having a hard time with this. I mean he just met her 6 months ago. 6 months.What could she possibly know about him? 
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Did you watch the movie?  To you remember how at the end of the day, Julia Robert's character really wasn't a good match for her best friend?  In her mind there was what could have been but reality in the day to day relationship ups and downs she really wasn't the right one.  Are you maybe keeping the idea of what could be with the best friend as a way of not getting close to another guy and dealing with the ups and downs of a real romantic relationship? Like the woman that pick emotionally unavailable men because deep down it scares the crap out of them to let someone get close in a relationship that could really work.

You say you have both changed so that makes me think that you guys were not a good match when you were dating.  His now girlfriend might be a better match for him with the person he has become.  He can also take things at face value and not weigh the previous history with the new girlfriend like you would if you get back with an ex.  You also only know the new girlfriend's stats "on paper" like pretty, smart, and nice.  But there are lots of pretty, smart, and nice woman out there and he chose her.  There is something about her specifically and how they are together that works.[/quote]

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