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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here, I don't think the age of my kids is relevant. The question basically is, "what do you do if you think someone is going to give your kid a gift that goes against your values and that you have expressly said you don't want your kid having?"

Like if someone gave a Mormon teenager a very revealing dress or something.

I mean, what do you do? Do you have to accept every gift? [/quote]

It's relevant because a lot of people will think your stance on zero ipad use despite having a kid old enough to be able to type something on a computer to be ridiculous.  You know that, or you wouldn't be so worried about the conversation steering that way.

That said, your mother knows your stance on the ipad, so your options are to (a) ask her what she got him before he opens it or (b) let him open it and when he does, say, "Son, i'm sorry, we don't allow ipads in our house and Grandma knows that.  She'll return it and get something else."  Yes, it will be incredibly awkward.  But if, to you use your example, I found revealing clothing to be inappropriate for my child, I would have no problem doing option B.  You have to say no to your kids all the time.  You'll look like the bad guy in front of your kid, but it won't be the first time.  [/quote] +1 except to the part about 'and grandma knows it'.  [/quote]
Immature at best. The issue is between the parents and grandparents. Kids do not need to be dragged into it just to prove who was WRONG.
I guess I don't get why someone is worried about 'being the bad guy' to kids. If I say no to something, them's tha breaks -- those are the rules. That does not make me the bad guy, it makes me the rule maker. Grandma gives something objectionable on Christmas, 'Thank you, we'll put this away for future use'. If kids push the issue, "We will talk about this later - END.OF.DISCUSSION'. What is the point of saying "Grandma does not respect me, she f*** up your Christmas".?

PP here.  I considered it without that part, but the kid sounds old enough to be told that Grandma is not respecting the parents' boundaries here, rather than letting her get away with being the good guy, while the parents are made to be the bad guys.  I don't know why you'd give her a free pass for that.[/quote][/quote]
Immature at best. The issue is between the parents and grandparents. Kids do not need to be dragged into it just to prove who was WRONG.
[b]I guess I don't get why someone is worried about 'being the bad guy' to kids. [/b]If I say no to something, them's tha breaks -- those are the rules. That does not make me the bad guy, it makes me the rule maker. Grandma gives something objectionable on Christmas, 'Thank you, we'll put this away for future use'. If kids push the issue, "We will talk about this later - END.OF.DISCUSSION'. What is the point of saying "Grandma does not respect me, she f*** up your Christmas".?[/quote]

That's great for you, [b]but this is something OP is clearly worried about or she wouldn't be worried about heading her mother off at the pass [/b]in buying something she doesn't want to give her kids.[/quote]
NO, I would not want my mother to go against my wishes, but not because of being worried about being the bad guy, it would be about respecting my wishes. Two different things. [/quote]

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