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[quote=Anonymous]A few things you've said make me think that you have expectations of what your parents should be doing in their role as your parents and grandparents and that when they fall short, you let them know. The examples you give that stood out to me: you're calling often enough to get screened out, you think a few weeks between calls requires an explanation, you've asked what's wrong often enough that your mother has asked you to stop and you don't believe your dad when he said there's nothing, you're the last one to find out about illness, you only get that information when it's used defensively - ie, you were asking/demanding an explanation for your expectations not being met.

This scenario can be very taxing on the other party. I've been on the other end of this situation and I'm sure you're confident that what you want out of your parents is reasonable - maybe it is - but it's not what they're offering and they think about they're offering is fine. You can make your peace with it or not, but trying to demand more will get you that exact reaction you're puzzled by - distance. When some one refuses to accept your boundaries and limitations, distance is the only response left in the toolkit. [/quote]

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