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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws have stayed with us for 6 months. I know how you feel. It takes toll  on the marriage and you.
Here is how I kept my sanity. 
Rule 1: Know that it absolutely futile to whine to your husband. Because they just don't get it.
I absolutely stopped doing it. If I got mad - I said - "honey - I just need to vent about abc... And let you know how I feel.."
No action required from his side. And then let it go.

Rule 2: Set a good boundaries for yourself. Know that you will never be good enough. You are not their daughter.
So stop over compensating. It will get you nowhere.

Rule 3: There are only 2 people in your marriage. You and your husband. Keep it that way.
No use bringing MIL or FIL in your fights. Please do not fight about what MIL said it did with your husband. Your husband has no control over MIL.

Rule 4: Communicate openly and frankly with your husband. If you want your husband to do something specific, ask MIL something specific -
Ask very openly.  Tell your husband that you love him and you will do this because you love him. 
Pre-discuss deal breakers with him and have a plan between both of you.

Most importantly - OP - Be kind to yourself. Do things for you.

This is how I got thru my 6 months. 
It is a lot of work. I am proud of myself. My husband has no idea how difficult it is.[/quote]

Op here: Thanks for the advice. Its good that you survived...First few months went absolutely fine...But now I have started feeling depressed. I love my husband but cannot take this anymore. And thinking of them coming back in next few months makes me more depressed. Sometimes I just feel I wish it was just a bad dream...I wake up and they are gone.
Also, they are not evil or anything but very nosey in everything we do plus the never ending advices from MIL........drives me crazy
In my culture, if I vent too much, its considered bad and that I am not a family girl and do not have good upbringing. I would also be considered as family breaker...[/quote]

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