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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW: Sex and romance are two very distinct things. Both are essential needs to keep a marriage alive and affair-free.

Yes, OP, you prepared for the date and DH acted like a teen guy on prom night -- threw on an outfit and prepared to show up where he was told. That's how many men are: clueless to romance.

So yes, it's unfair, but it looks like you're going to have to make reservations and plan the evening's events completely yourself. Unless, of course, you show him this thread and he gets the message that he better book a nice restaurant and at least put on a clean new suit for an evening out and buy some $10 roses at Safeway for you on date nights.

The bright side: you choose the restaurant: you decide whether its Rasika or El Jaleo. You choose the theatre, whether it's Shakespeare, Woolly Mammoth or just Regal Cinema. You set the romantic course of the evening: Faust or  Swan Lake. You get the events you like.

Who knows? Maybe he'll never catch on, but if you do this a few times, maybe he'll decide that if he wants to "Star Wars" instead of "Steve Jobs," then he better learn to book reservations or buy a ticket. Not as romantic but still an evening out.

Here's a suggestion: call him today to meet for coffee or a lunch together. No recriminations. Just enjoying each other in the outdoors before the winter makes that impossible. Remember why you love each other and had two beautiful children.

OK, so date night was no thrill but the thrill is not gone. It's inside of both of you somewhere, just buried under diapers and sleep deprivation. And no fair that you still have to do all the romantic heavy lifting (along with many and varied sexual positions) to keep the marriage alive.
Just remember that he's tired too and deep down he loves you very much. I can tell even from your post.

Yes, he does.

Good luck and don't give up yet. [/quote]

You are wonderful. I wish we were friends. Thank you![/quote]

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