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[quote=Anonymous]No, 68 really isn't that old.  I could see if she were ninety, that the travel might be too much for her.  But if she pulls this when she is 68 and then lives to be 98, you're looking at thirty years of her being 'too old' to ever reciprocate.  And at some point you will likely be the same age that she is now, but she will still always win because she's older.

I don't think it's fair when relatively young people pull the age card in this way.  A lot of people who are 68 are still working -- because they have to, to pay the bills.  And they don't have the self-indulgent option of deciding that they are too old to use a computer, own a cell phone, drive, travel to the annual meeting for their profession, etc.  My MIL started doing this "I'm too old to learn new things" routine when she was in her early sixties.  She cannot do a variety of things -- since she doesn't have internet or a computer she cannot buy a plane ticket online, get an e-mail regarding coordination of family events, look at pictures of the children on facebook and as a result, people have to spend a lot of time basically being her secretary -- mailing pictures, buying her plane tickets and mailing them to her.  She also is too old to use the ATM, the electronic grocery checkout, etc. etc.  etc.

If someone chooses to be too old and to make life inconvenient for others at every turn, then they need to be willing to accept the consequences of that decision, which might include not being able to visit or see others as often as they would like.[/quote]

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