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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP. I would be mad as well, and definitely wouldn't let it slide. It sounds like she may have felt embarrassed when you told her her breath stinks; I know my daughter would have. I try to find out if that was the root for her anger. I would tell her it is never okay for her to call you names. Then I would have her write me a list of three appropriate responses or ways to address me when I tell her something that she doesn't agree with or hurts her feelings. I would go over the list with her, talk about my role as her mother (to be shown respect and tell her when her hygiene is lacking), and hug it out. I wouldn't cancel the play date. Good luck.[/quote]

This is the best response I have seen on this thread.  Along with the one right above it - were you a jerk when you said it?

I would work with her on how to express her feelings about adults (including you) TO adults.  How she did so earlier was not appropriate.  I was not taught to do this (many people are not).[/quote]

Agree! My mom did something similar for a similar incident when I was about your daughter's age that lesson stuck with me, not just the lesson of appropriate language, but also how she dealt with me she could have very easily used all her " mom powers" and come up with a terrifying  punishment, but she didn't.

I also agree with the poster who mentioned to consider how you tell her these things some kids are far more sensitive about hygiene things than others.

Lastly, not a  popular opinion on DCUM where the popular view tends to be control every aspect of your child until they are 18, but pick your battles, sure let her know her breath stinks, but let her figure out what to do about it.[/quote]

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