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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could be your wife, OP.  I think I have always felt this way, but especially now that we have kids and I have some hormonal issues.

Before DH, I was in some really bad relationships.  Amazing sex and sexual attraction, but emotionally abusive.  When I met DH, I found him attractive and nice, but he didn't turn me on.   I did not think that I could have both sexual attraction and someone who was a good guy.  I wanted a good guy because I needed stability and wanted a great parent for my kids.  This all worked out great for the first few years.  Now it's taking it's toll.  I am about to start therapy again to figure it out.  Besides no sexual attraction, we get along great, have fun together, travel well together, etc.  I have brought up therapy to him, but he is against it.  So I figure I need to at least put myself in therapy b/c it's not fair to him.

Actually, I have to say, my DH is seriously like a 3rd child and that could definitely contribute to my lack of sexual attraction to him.   I need a man, not another person to pick up after. [/quote]

Wow... I could have wrote this post as well.. [/quote]

Me too. I'm divorced now. This is not the only reason but it sure didn't help.

OP, is it possible that what is bothering you is something else? Because honestly, actions speak louder than words, and your wife is acting like she is attracted to you (i.e. having sex). You mention that you are in individual therapy and going to start marriage counseling. I suspect that whatever is leading you to therapy & MC is what is really bothering you. 
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