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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft.  You must understand the dynamics of being in an abusive relationship with a man before judging your mother. [/quote]

That's so funny.  That's the book my mom keeps trying to get me to read.

I usually can be understanding of my mom, but when she does this stuff it just plunges me back into such a state of trauma.

I will try to be understanding though. I dont know how to explain- she is a genuinely good, highly intelligent person.  And she raised me to be a feminist.  Which is why i think I find this so baffling.

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I didn't say you should read the book to enable your mom to continue abusive relationships; I meant that you need to understand what your mother is up against and try to help her avoid such relationships. [/quote]

The thing is, I have always done that and I dont think it's healthy for me.  At this point, she has read that book, been in years of therapy, and she is still doing this.  It's so unbelievably stressful for me to worry about her in that way and part of me wonders if she enjoys that worried attention, to be honest [/quote]

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