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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  I'm your husband's age (early 50's) and no way am I that "old".

You sound as though you are talking about a difficult elderly dad.  [/quote]

I'm PP @8:35 and no, it's not "difficult elderly dad" - it's insecure controlling asshole.  He could very easily be her age and pull the same shit.  What you see with these age differentials, is that oftentimes these controlling assholes (and there are plenty of women among them - see the guy in the "My Wife Hates Me" thread") choose inexperienced (younger) partners who don't recognize and call them out on their BS (or their real peers just won't have anything to do with them), and aren't equipped to stand up to it.

I'm an older (mid-40s) guy with a brand new younger DW (mid-30s) and our first child (both of us) ever, and I'm as (or more) youthful than DW.  We also both have learned from our pasts being with abusive|user controlling people to not put up with BS from each other (and neither of us is really insecure and controlling).  [/quote]

Where are you seeing "abusive" in the Op's posts?  The yogurt thing is - annoying and know it all-sh.  The yelling about leaving insurance/registration info on the table at home during a traffic stop - it's actually kind of understandable why he was irritated that his wife had left those important papers at home.

Even the Op points to age as the reason for this guy being irritable.[/quote]

Please keep in mind, that the wife left those papers at home because the wife went into labor and was not driving prior to because I was shopping/switching insurance. The fact that he wouldn't  accept that he would have never gotten pulled over had he not being backing up a one way street!!! That's the illegal act that cause him to get stop! The police never asked for the insurance information. [/quote]

Yes. I get it, these things happen.  He was likely stressed (as most people would be) by being pulled over and felt thrown off/embarrassed by it.  Not having the papers just increased his anxiety.

Has he always been like this or is this a personality change?  Did he used to be more laid backand considerate, accepting of your friends/family?  Or has he always been like this?[/quote]

No way!!!! If it started like this I would have been out of it long ago! He use to be much more laid back. Although he never really liked when I would go out with my friends. My solution to that was suggesting that he took me out. We use to always go out in the beginning. I often look back at photos and trinkets and wonder what the hell happen. He is at work allll day! I have dinner prepared. Some times he may come in the house and say that he had meat for lunch and if I cooked meat he won't eat. Like that's rude and inconsiderate. I talk to you throughout the day, so you have the chance to give me a heads up on what you've had for lunch. Just selfish- and self absorbed! [/quote]

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