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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I did say my anger was unreasonable. I know it's unreasonable. But he was faking. Fine enough to go to sweet frog for a treat last night, but crippling this morning at the thought of school. But as soon as he was out of the car at school, he walked fine again.[/quote]

So that leaves me at square one. How am I supposed to react when this happens? Every injury from a paper cut to a blister he didn't even know was there elicits an over the top reaction.  He may have a low threshold for pain. The idea of injury may scare him too. But I don't know the best way to approach. [/quote]

I react the same for all alleged injuries--warm but matter-of-fact.  "Oh, you have X injury?  That probably hurts.  Let's do [proper treatment for injury] to make it feel better."  And then I enforce the treatment for that injury, including any restrictions on activities.  So, you claim you're in too much pain to walk...well, we'd better get home so you can rest.  Oh, no we can't stop for ice cream, we have to get home so you can rest.  And if the injury really is minor, like a paper cut, I just treat it (if I would normally) and then minimize any further reaction.  "Well, we cleaned it and put on a band-aid.  There's nothing else I can do."

It also sounds like this is attention-seeking behavior.  Make sure that you're providing positive attention at other times.  If you ever catch him brushing off a minor injury, praise him for being tough. [/quote]

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