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[quote=Anonymous]I have a child whose pain ebbs and flows with how much he wants to do the activity at hand. Always worse on a monday morning before school. I get it, OP.

BUT. Have you ever faked feeling badly, OP? Either sick, or tired, or in pain? Or if not faked, at least hammed it up a bit? Would it have done a tiny bit of good to be called on faking it? No. That just makes you dig in and double down, because now you are invested in being sick! You must be sick!

So take him at his word. Believe him. Don't tell him he doesn't feel what he feels. What you can help him modify is his reaction to pain. I was stunned by the change in my son when I took one of his fastballs (he is a learning pitcher) to my cheek bone. It knocked me down and hurt horribly. But not wanting to dissuade him from learning to pitch I got up and made him keep pitching to me and told him that it hurt badly, but I still wanted to play and stopping playing wouldn't make it feel better. A week later he stubbed his toe while playing and kept going, telling me "I saw you do it, Mom, and I'm going to do it too." I don't want him to play through real pain and ignore it, but I do want to give him tools to deal with pain.

And we've made a general rule that no mater how sick and in pain you truly are on a Monday, if there is no vomit and no fever you go to school or work, because it is probably your brain creating pain. Your brain is tricky.[/quote]

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