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[quote=Anonymous]Marriage is about compromise and over the years, DH and I have come to a happy medium about family visits, though I'd say I've moved more towards his view of wanting/allowing family to stay with us.  My family will take a guest room in our house if there is one but otherwise is happy to stay in a hotel.  My ILs, on the other hand, almost never pay for a hotel and will happily sleep on the floor rather than do so.  It's just one difference of many in how we were raised and how our families do things.

(a) You don't like your SIL, that's clear.  Sorry, but putting up with ILs is just part of being family.  (b) I don't really understand why you wouldn't let her stay with you if there's room, as a general rule.  If she's that God-awful, then you need to get your own hotel or have some alone time when she visits so she can spend time with her brother.  She's his family.  That's not going to change.  If you live near the airport and you reasonably can pick her up, I don't see the big deal.  If it would be a huge hassle, then say you're unable to.  Expecting to use one of your cars seems unreasonable to me.  (c) It seems like this is a particularly bad time to visit, so why is she visiting at all?  Why don't you say, that week doesn't work for me, and then work on finding a better time for her to visit?  Because as it is now, you're basically sighing and huffily saying, "FINE she can come visit, but only if she does X, Y, and Z." that make it clear she's not actually welcome.[/quote]

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