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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not quite sure which forum to post this. Since it affects my relationship with my husband more than anything, I thought this might be the most appropriate.  I apologize in advance if it isn't.

I originally titled this post, "How to be happy."  But, that's not quite what is bothering me.  I'm not happy because I am angry all the time.  I'm angry that my husband doesn't help out as much as he should with the kids.  I'm angry that my kids are constantly whining, crying, fighting, repeat.  I'm angry that I can't talk about stupid shit that bothers me to my husband because he doesn't care/dismisses what is bothering me.  I'm angry that a friend doesn't reply to emails - or asks me to do something and when I do she doesn't do her part.  I'm angry that my family hasn't been around to help me with my small kids (they live close).  I'm angry that I go to a good job, get paid well, but find it soul crushing yet am too risk averse to do try something different that I might actually like doing.  I am angry that I don't have the time to dedicate to doing what I love doing.  I'm angry that I grew up watching my disfunctional parents and my mom was a yeller and now I am a yeller.  I'm angry at single people that want kids but have no idea how fucking hard they are and how easy their lives are at the moment.  I am just fucking angry and I hate being angry.  How do I let things go?   How do I just be happy with what I have?  [/quote]

They say hurt people hurt.

I'll tell you from personal experience.  Our anger is often misplaced.  We take it out on people around us, but it could be about something completely different.  I was very angry at my husband for every little thing, at my child, at life.  I was constantly angry, abusive to my family, it almost ruined my marriage.  It was so toxic.  It was poisoning my whole life.  I went to see a counselor.  What I found out was that it was about my childhood (a very dysfunctional family, negligence, emotional wounds), old wounds that didn't heal.  Once I got to the bottom of it and let it all out I felt a huge relief.  It was like carrying an emotional brick around my neck and then letting it go.  I sometimes get angry, but it's not that kind of angry.  That constant poisonous anger is gone.

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