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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds to me like you have lost yourself.  Your life is no longer yours, it belongs to other people.  Of course that's how it is for a while with young kids, but it still critical to a persons mental well being to have something of their own.

I believe it is possible to change your personality.  I did it years ago when I saw myself having anger issues.  It reminded me of my father and I HATED how he was.  When I consciously decided to change and take real steps towards achieving that, is when it happened.  I found a therapist and went to her diligently for 6 years.  I came out a new person.  It will only work if you want it to work.  To me, you acknowledging your issue is the first and sometimes hardest step towards mental well being.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this, but I have confidence that you can and will make this change!  [/quote]

+1.  I do believe you can change your personality.  If you're a reader, try reading Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman.  It's about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but I don't think it should be a substitute for therapy.  THe whole gist of the book, though, is that you can choose how to react to the world.  There are people who naturally are natural optimists but the rest of us can learn how to be.  I don't necessarily use the techniques in the book specifically but the message that I can change how I react to things really stays with me.

Also, now that your kids are sleeping, I highly recommend morning exercise as a way to improve your mood.  I just started doing it about a year ago (and it was rough, I hate getting out of bed) but it's made a big difference in my mood.  On the days that I run in the morning, I feel almost high sometimes, that's how great it is.  Plus it's taking some time JUST FOR ME which in and of itself is helpful.  It sounds like you need to do some things just for you to make you happy because you feel drained by your responsibilities.  [/quote]

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