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[quote=Anonymous]There's a lot to unpack in this thread. First of all, college counselors vary widely. If the one at your DC's school is not great then, yes, you have to do more. But if she is great -- as OP says -- then don't take over the process.

And don't get things done for your DC whatever you do. She has to be able to do this herself.

It sounds like OP's primary concern is deadlines. Thats very easy -- speak to the college counselor and make sure she knows this is an issue. I wrote this before -- if one is looming get back to her to do the reminding. Only step in if its come down to "you are grounded until you do X" because she truly is up against it. But if you reach that point after reminders, then you and she need to have a talk about whether she's ready to go to college.

My oldest DC owned the process. We did basically nothing. Second child has executive functioning issues so the approach will be that we have to proofread everything. But thats it for our input. The essay will go through the college counselor (who is great in our case).

Be very careful about making this your project. It is stressful enough to begin with, you will only add to the stress if you do this. Plus the colleges tend to be better fits when the applicants have freer reign to explore them and make their own decisions. With DC1 just pointing something out "have you thought about this issue?" set her off.

The sense I get is that you are very excited to jump in. I get that. But you have to ask yourself at each step -- is this for her, or is this for me? Even expressing concerns -- is this because of my own anxiety or for her?[/quote]

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