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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am in almost your exact same situation and the only thing that has ever worked is 
1. Leave my sibling alone.
Not responding to an email or phone call is essentially saying they don't want that kind of contact. You will unknowingly say the wrong thing, or share the wrong info. Even your email about the baby could be interpreted by an angry bitter person as thinking you are so special you had a baby, everyone has babies, etc and fuel the rage. Your sister is not well, any contact is going to blow up 
2. Making it very clear, and following through, with my parents that I do not want their input or information about my sibling passed to me, and requested no info go the opposite way as well, though I can't control that.
It only hurts the situation to have parents (your Dad for you) being the middle man, having discussions with you and then your sister, passing things along, trying to talk to your sister about you and vice versa. Though well intentioned, especially since he is still married to your mom, the back and forth and drama with everyone talking through him will make things worse. Have discussions with him that you don't want to talk about it.
3. Assume it's permanent and get yourself the support you need to deal with it[/quote]

This is excellent advice.

Your sister is being crystal clear OP.  It is sad, on many levels, and I am sorry for you, but she is being extremely consistent and clear.  You need to leave it alone and go live your life.  You have your own nuclear family to worry about now.  Just focus on that.

(I say this as someone who found having children to suddenly give me extraordinary clarity and strength in limit setting w/ my highly dysfunctional family.)[/quote]

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