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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read:  How to talk so teens will listen and listen so teens will talk.

Not sure it will help much, though, you seem pretty set on setting her right.  You will NOT get anywhere by calling her out.

Strongly suggest thinking differently or it will be a long and destructive next four years.[/quote]

OP here. I understand and realize that something needs to change. But when I see dd walk into a room full of friends with a grumpy look on her face, sits by herself, and complains later that they were ignoring her...what would you say to that? I'm not being snide here. I really want to know how I am supposed to react![/quote]

In the moment you should do nothing. Don't react at all.

Later say, hey did you have fun? If she is like yea sure either let it be or say, oh i thought you looked a little upset when you walked into the kitchen I must be mistaken. Maybe she will say, oh yea Larla was trying to be bossy or something. Then you say, oh bummer. That is it.

Sometimes, I get ... I don't want to tell you because you will overreact so I say, I promise not to .. then they tell me, then I put a pillow over my head so I don't overreact. See it's funny. We are parents, we over react, we give too much direction, we actually think we understand but we don't, we think we can impart wisdom, but likely we can't.

Like recently I said, "Just don't go on Instagram." I might as well of said, "just don't breath" :-)

I often say, "I am sorry, i am not good at this, i am trying my best." [/quote]

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