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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 11 yr old son, who has ADHD, and I were talking about the foster care system. It's not unusual that we get into discussions about serious issues. He overheard me and DH discussing thigns and wants to learn about it and join. He's always been a bit selfish and has what I think is an underdeveloped conscience. Like for example, the other day he broke something in the house yet blamed his little sister. It took a lot of prodding and then threats before he finally admitted he did it. We talked about how children in foster care often have a tough life, why, and how life is even harder sometimes after they age out. He abruptly asks me, "So does the government give a person money for taking in a foster child?" I answer "Yes, I do believe they do sometimes." "How much?" he asks. "I don't know" I answer. He then asks, "Why don't you take in a foster child so you can get more money?" I was appalled. He's a very bright kid who is developmentally very behind emotionally. Is there any hope? Anyone have a kid like this? [/quote]

OP, I have an 11 year old DS and frankly,[b] I'm more concerned about you [/b]-- that you would think a statement like this was worthy of rushing to DCUM, calling his conscience "underdeveloped" and asking if there is any hope.

Do you have any sense of reality of what to expect from an 11 year old?[/quote]

I'm not the OP, but why so mean?[/quote]

Another poster.  I was trying to suggest some of this with my comments.  Perhaps this pp is a little blunt, but what comes across with OP's anecdotes is a kind of dislike of her child and a lack of benefit of the doubt.  It's a little bit off-putting.  I don't find this poster any meaner than OP is, truthfully.  I am taken aback that a mother would present her child as "without a conscience" over such trivialities, and yes, this to me reflects a sense of unreality about child development.  Children are not always empathetic.  That doesn't mean they lack a conscience.[/quote]

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