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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have put my foot down on this kind of nonsense when no one in my immediate family would. I am a introvert by nature but I also hate to see people continue to be mistreated just in the name of family harmony.  As you are now experiencing, the resentment builds until you are seething with rage and it affects your happiness. I decided that I would only do what I was willing to do without resentment.

For example, I used to drive down for hours to meet up with my sister and her ILs when they were in the state for a trip.  Even though my sister and I had made plans to spend the day, invariably her ILs would come up with a better idea and our plans were pushed aside for theirs. It had been a pattern since they had started dating and it made me enormously resentful.  After this happened when I had young children along, I decided "Enough!"  From then on, I only got together with my sister and her ILs when we happened to be in the area and would go ahead with our plans whether they joined us or not. My resentment disappeared.  OP, decide what you can control and are willing to do for your mother with regard to your uncle's family that won't make you resentful. If that is nothing, then do nothing and tell your mom why. That's why I mentioned Uber in the earlier post. Sometimes there is a solution that is bearable. [/quote]

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