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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The fact that your MIL has a hoarding problem explains a lot. Hoarders can have huge amounts of shame about their home. Also, have you seen those hoarding shows? They want to keep tight control of all their possessions, and get agitated if they think someone might make a decision without them. MIL might be comfortable giving control to BIL, who is already intimately familiar with the mess. She may want to keep you out to preserve some degree of control or dignity. [/quote]

Yes, I've seen the hoarding shows and while she is not a level 3 hoarder, more like a level 1, she suffers from the same mental issues.  At this point, she has nothing to do with the house and has not been there in over a year.   The house has to be cleaned out whether she likes it or not but BIL is dragging it out.  If he would let me help him by throwing stuff out and cleaning instead of digging around looking for the "important" stuff it will make the process a lot quicker but he has issues about throwing the garbage out.

My mil mainly hoarded paper and according to BIL every single piece has to be examined before being thrown out.  The assisted living facility keeps an eagle eye on mil to make sure she does not revert to her hoarding ways but BIL seems to have similar issues when it comes to the family home.

I know they want to hang on to the garbage bc it was the status quo when FIL was alive so I am going to leave it alone.  At the very worst, they can keep the house "as is" and buy out DH for his share which will be fine with us.
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