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No, it's a problem, because like the PP said, EVERY 7 year is is potentially gay (but more than likely straight).  Why are we even introducing sexual attraction to a young child, instead of them letting themselves figure it out?

[b]It's also patently ridiculous to think that enjoying "girl" things makes him gender non-conforming[/b] or potentially gay.[/quote]

On the contrary, a boy enjoying "girl" things is basically the definition of gender non-conforming, for boys.[/quote]

But it's ok for girls to play with Legos, right?  That's not gender non-conforming.   :roll: [/quote]

Boys are policed a lot harder for gender conformity than girls are. Girls can like sports and be tomboys. It's okay if they hate pink. Boys are teased a lot more if they like My Little Pony or pink toys.  Males are policed vigorously by other males for signs they might not be straight and cis.

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This. In fact we are at a point where we often praise girls for being gender non confirming and its very rare to see that kind of praise for boys. Girl who is rough and tumble, etc. are often seen as just awesome, boys who are effeminate rarely so. It still stems from the idea that what is traditionally feminine is weak or undesirable. Which hurts girls and women just as much as boys who prefer those things!

OP I think you sound like a conscious mom. I also think at 7 the idea that we are "introducing sexual attraction" is kind of silly. Kids see adults hug or kiss, they understand marriage and many understand "where babies come from". The idea that it isn't introduced already is ridiculous. The problem that can (not WILL but MAY) arise from just "letting them figure it out" when they may not be straight or gender conforming is that since most people are, their perception of themselves as minority or different can quickly internalize as "bad" if there has not been any communication on the topic or it seems like something that needs to be "secret until you are absolutely sure".[/quote]

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