Reply to Wife snaps a lot

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Wife snaps a lot"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I'm a DW with a very low frustration tolerance.  My Dad was the snapper.  I learned to not do it by pausing, recognizing I was in a trigger situation, acknowledge I was frustrated.  Starting to just verbalize what the trigger was and why it was a trigger, and what was making me frustrated were the steps that I used to untrain myself from snapping and to calm down.  A lot of times I was tired, I was working, trying to juggle the kids needs, and I was feeling overwhelmed. Maybe some empathy could help her also.  I don't snap now.

It's not a nice way to treat people.  I bet your wife knows that and you might be able to help by reframing the situation and helping her recognize, stop, and regroup.

It's not that hard to break a habit with work.  Re-do the situation with what she should have said, you model good traits, and don't feed into it by snapping back.  You'll need to stay calm to help her see it's possible to stay calm. Encouragd her to go back and handle it right.  That's better than sorry.

I think she can break this habit. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics