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I guess that's what I'm going back and forth on, when I'm pretty happy with life today and don't feel an achy longing for a child but do like the idea of having the type of experiences PPs have described and do worry that I'd regret NOT doing it, how do I get over the hump one way or the other?  How likely is it I'll have those experiences / feelings that get you through the day to day if I'm not the type who feels "of course I'll have kids!"

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Do everything you can to get your hands on that book, The Baby Decision. I had googled and read everything else I could get my hands on, read other books, etc - nothing was as helpful to me as that book. Everything else was sharing other people's experiences, but that book is like going through an intense process of counseling. It's like $200 on Amazon, but my library was able to borrow it from somewhere in Arkansas! I serious considered scanning it all in (it's kind of long) because it was so good.

I also think this is a serious enough topic that it could be a good application for counseling, but the problem is finding a counselor who can handle this type of question and/or doesn't have preconceived notions. I found it to be hard to have people get past either "Well, of course everyone wants kids," or "If you don't really want them, you shouldn't have them." For those on the fence, there's a lot more gray to it.

Good luck. Did you mention how old you are, OP? [/quote]

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