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[quote=Anonymous]The PPs who are comparing it to listening in on phone calls or reading their diary are in for a rude awakening some day. A phone conversation can't be shared with the entire school when the friend gets mad at her a few months later. A phone call can't resurface some day when they are applying for college or a job. Our kids are growing up in a world that is way bigger than the world we grew up in. they really truly need several years of training to learn what they should and should not do on their phones/internet. when my kids complain about not having privacy since i read their texts, I remind them that they are more than welcome to call or facetime the friend if they need privacy. But i have told them from day one that texts are not private.

My kids are very good, responsible people, and they still make stupid mistakes. Dd hates that I monitor her texts, but she also knows that she still needs my guidance. there was one time where she did something anonymously that was incredibly stupid. She thought it was a cute little prank, but people were very upset about it. If anyone had found out it was her, she would have lost all of her friends and so much more. When she realized how it had upset people, she came to me about it and told me everything. I have never seen her so frightened and upset. I did help her out of it, and nobody ever found out. I'm sure some would say that I should have let her suffer the consequences, but I just couldn't. Not this time. I am usually all about natural consequences for their actions, but that wasn't the direction I wanted to go. I am glad she came to me, and I want her to continue to do so. So this was my chance to prove that she really can come to me when she gets herself in trouble. After we got the situation under control, we discussed her punishment, and she did not fight it.

I posted this on another thread, so I'm copying it here since it applies. This is how I demonstrated to DD that deleting something does not mean it's gone forever: For awhile, kids were into posting pics on instagram with the caption "deleting in 5 min" If they didn't want TOO many people to see it, I guess. Well, dd posted one of those. I took a screen shot of it and Sent it to dh. Told him to screen shot it and pass it on but keep it in the family. Several hours later, We revealed to dd that her "deleted" post lives on. By then, everyone on both sides of her family had seen it, saved it to their own device, and then passed it on. Seems cruel, I know, but it really showed her that nothing is truly deleted. [/quote]

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