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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you, everyone.  I really appreciate the kindness shown.  I do have to remind myself that it is a disability because it's not a "visible" disability like some others.  My child's standardized tests scores are all 98th percentile and higher, so he/she definitely has managed to learn something.  However, he/she has been receiving C's, D's and F's even in classes upon which the standardized tests are based (English, Math, etc.). [b] And in the subject that he/she supposedly loves and wants to pursue in college.  He/she has had to drop almost all extracurricular activities and spends almost all his/her time doing homework [/b](alhtough I suspect there is some computer surfing going on).  Most significantly, he/she is unhappy -- very unhappy, in fact.  It is a sad lifestyle for him/her, but it just takes him/her so much longer to do the homework.  My heart aches for everyone who's posted and I greatly admire those of you who are able to see the silver lining.  Maybe things will work out in the end, but it sure is a bumpy road.[/quote]

Maybe your child can find a better fit in college than the cookie cutter approach that is public education or even explore a non-traditional path.  I would suggest looking into a resource like the College Consulting Collaborative - http://collegeld.com/.  The end goal is a happy, healthy, and self-sufficient adult.  You really need to search to find colleges that will be a good fit and allow your child to succeed.  Also realize, not everyone goes to college and that is ok.  Perhaps have your child explore options like a trade or the military or even take a year off to explore an interest.

Also, remind yourself of the old airline stewardess advice on helping yourself before helping your child.  Schedule time for yourself.  Find a therapist or someone to talk to help give you the coping skills or an unbiased third party sounding board.  Meditate, exercise, whatever helps you unwind and deal with stress.  Life is a marathon not a sprint.  Everyone has days that you feel you take one step forward and two steps back.  You need healthy outlets to be able to regroup, reevaluate, and come up with a plan B.[/quote]

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