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[quote=Anonymous]Folks, OP already said that she is not personally close to this cousin. Expecting anyone to make a 12-hour-each-way trip to attend a wedding is expecting too much, to me, especially if that guest is just not someone close. Family or not.  I would bet that the bride and groom would be happy to see OP but just will not have it on their radar to be nearly as upset about a cancellation as some people on here insist they will be.

OP, your mom has already made her other arrangements (though yes, it would be good if you still paid any change fees she incurs). You did not know when you said yes that you had this major exam coming up -- is that correct? If I read that right, you were told about your exam after you said yes. It's too bad that you did not call your cousin the very day you found out about the exam and said you were sorry but could not attend due to the exam (leave family and kid things out, the exam alone, assuming it's something major for you to continue with a degree or other program, is important). Add the exam to the massive drive and this was an easy "no" from the day you got the exam date.

If this would cause some rift with your mom or other family members, that's different, though I would hate to go to an event just because I wanted to avoid a rift rather than because I wanted to be at the event itself.

If you really feel you must be there, suck up the cost and go one day and fly back the next.

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