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[quote=Anonymous]Dh and I were surprised when we realized that dd was beautiful.  Somehow she got the best parts of both of us.  It has been interesting.  Some thoughts:

1) Some people clearly liked me a lot because I had a beautiful daughter.  That felt odd, given that I wasn't the one who picked out her DNA.

2) I realized that all my life there was this little part of me that believed that beautiful people were "better" than me (and yes I have a PhD but I still fell for that) and now that it my own kid who was one of those beautiful people quite by accident without her having done anything to deserve it, I realized that I had been scammed all those years without even knowing it.  Beautiful people are just lucky, not more deserving.

3) Reading the posts of once beautiful women in the 50 and over threads on DCUM makes me realize that I am having a great time in my old age because I'm not losing this powerful thing that once got me lots of attention. And then I remember I have to warn my kid that this change will come and that she better not get too attached to her looks.

4) Not jealous of my kid at all.  On one hand she gets more attention because she's beautiful and I'm glad for her.  On the other hand she gets more attention from predators and I feel sorry for her.  There are a couple of asshole teens who I would like to strangle who manipulated and used her and that would have been less likely to happen if she hadn't been beautiful.

The author of Reviving Ophelia said it was best for a girl to be not too beautiful and not too ugly in order to avoid the most toxic aspects of female adolescence.  While I would have liked to have been beautiful as a teen, I think I dodged a bullet all in all.  My daughter had a rough adolescence in part because she was beautiful.  She's doing very well now and has come through with flying colors but it would have been easier for her if she hadn't been quite so beautiful.

5) She's the best kid ever.  I'm so proud of her regardless of how she looks.[/quote]

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