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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not unreasonable at all.

We have a similar situation -- ILs about 3 hrs away and my family on the other side of the country.  Our compromise has been...

Thanksgiving every year with the ILs.  
Xmas at home, go to ILs, either right after Xmas or for New Year's.  My parents come visit us for Xmas every-other-year.  Alternate years they stay at home and do xmas with my sister and her family.  
My ILs don't care about Easter so we're usually at home or on vacation. [/quote]

NP, but I'm in the same situation too. This sounds like too much! So even on years that you spend Christmas at home, you still have to go to their house after? Yikes. I'm trying SO hard to get away from this. What's up with grandparents not wanting to travel??[/quote]

I'd be happy to have my ILs come up but the reality is that FIL and MIL are elderly and in poor health so they can't travel alone, DH's siblings all live in the hometown and their kids are teens/young adults with their own lives, jobs, etc.  DH wants to see ALL his family, not just his parents.  It just makes more sense for us to go down and spend a weekend with them (NOT on Xmas because I hate the way they do Xmas).  Having the whole extended family caravan up to our house (where we don't have room for everyone to stay) seems silly just for us to get a turn to host.  The first couple years we did this (when DS was a baby) we did go up on the 26th and I don't like that -- it's too rushed.  Now, we typically go for New Years Eve/Day so there's a break, or the weekend in between, depending on how the holidays fall.

As PP mentioned, the OP needs to talk with her DH about what HE wants the holidays to be like and how they will spend time with his family.  And, how they spend time with the DW's family.  When  I gave up traveling to my family for holidays, it was with the clear agreement that I also take the kids to see my family for 2 weeks every summer and attend as many family events (weddings, funerals, etc.) as possible.[/quote]

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