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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't even know where to begin.  How about just a list of the things she's told me in the past week?

1.  I need to see a doctor because I keep getting colds.  And that if I won't take her advice on that, not to talk to her.
2.  I shouldn't be spending money on vacation because I complain how much childcare costs.
3.  I'm one of the stupidest people she's ever met (ok, she told DH that about me).
4.  If I don't bring my child, I might as well not even come visit.
5.  I'm "crazy".
6.  She knew I'd be a bad mother.

I am pretty sure she's the cause of my low self-esteem since none of this is new, but for various reasons, I simply can't cut her off.  I'd love to, and maybe in a few years.....

Any advice on dealing with toxic people like this?[/quote]
Your mother has a personality disorder and is mentally ill. Not sure what from the little you wrote, but the abuse screams something aint right with your mom. First step- do not internalize anything she says. You can "listen", but do not validate it at all. Decide if you want a relationship and if you do, just know you'll have to put most of / all of what she says into a little box that you shove into a closet somewhere.[/quote]

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