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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all the posts, but am in this situation.  Together 12 years, married 8, with two kids 4 and 1.  I'm much more outgoing and social (though not a TRUE extrovert - I love time alone, I often want to stay in and chill, etc) than my husband.  It has pros and cons.

The pros are:
a)  he's a great husband and dad.  He doesn't want to be out schmoozing at happy hour, or playing golf with the guys - he wants to be home with his family.  
b)  I feel like the awesome person he is is a private thing for me and his family - like we get to see a side of him the world doesn't.
c) he's loyal and devoted - just a good guy.  Doesn't like gossip, cruelty, backstabbing, etc

The cons are:
a) he NEVER wants to go out.  We are part of a core group of friends and I often worry that the guys don't like him, people think he's boring and/or not interested in them, etc.  He's also a serious athlete, so EVERY time we go out it feels like he's doing the "one beer and let's leave early" thing.
b) he isn't a go-getter at work.  I work too, and this doesn't bother me, but he isn't a climb the corporate ladder type.  He has a good job, but the schmoozing aspect will never work for him.

I used to date a lot of in-your-face, outgoing guys and I adore my husband and am so glad I didn't go the other route (I can imagine worrying about cheating, etc).  That said, I do get frustrated with DH's lack of interest in socializing and I feel like it puts extra pressure on me to maintain our social life as a couple.[/quote]

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